2026: There are no INS and OUTS, only authentic desires or egoic bs

Here are mine, what are yours?

Literally who cares what is IN or OUT, the granular minutiae of “trends” and other people’s groupthink psychosis is none of my business! All these lists are just people’s own desires put through a fun house mirror anyway. I once had a mentor of sorts tell me it’s not what you do but why you do it and I think that’s an incredibly valuable rubric to look at your life through. Free yourself from the shackles of “should.” What brings you happiness? Like real happiness, not the kind driven by the idea that if you post the thing on social media people will be like oooh wowww I love this person now I am actually in love with them (all egoic desires root back down to something pure like, I just want to be loved, which is like, well yes of course!).

Related: I feel like resolutions have been unfairly villainized because they got conflated with unrelenting optimization (bad) instead of what they’re meant to be: aspirations towards a more resonant and nourishing existence (good).

Anyway here is what I desire for 2026 (also posted it on IG, might sky-write it over LA, NY, and London too, so what!). What do you desire?

2026 Desires

• Speak at or do events at some colleges + universities

• Devotion to baths

• Have a monthly column at a fabulous publication

• Learn more about my parents

• Spend more time listening to new music

• Better relationship to time (a chill, easy goal)

• More privacy

• Get into Pink Floyd

• Wear more high heels

• Make another t-shirt and perhaps a hat

• Host at least three dinner parties

• Reclaim some or all of my withered attention span

• Learn to knit

• Shop more intentionally and less aspirationally

• More raw dog walks

• Make a lot of adventurous and bold new soups

• Yoga retreat

• Be brave

Thanks for reading this newsletter this year. I hope you still want to read more in 2026 and I hope you get most (but not all!) of what you desire next year. Happy new year.

xx